No one gets out of here unscathed; We all have scars. But we must remember to let go of that which is no longer a positive influence in our lives. These influences could be a variety of things: from holding on to traumatic memories and the sadness that it brought to you, to not letting go of a lover that doesn't respect your relationship.
You deserve to be treated the way you treat your significant other. It is a waste of your time and energy to love someone who is unwiling to show you the same love in return. There are many other connections we could be making that can be just as strong and significant. We need to learn to let go when nothing gets better, and they keep telling you that they just need a bit more time and those weeks turn into months, andnothing has changed. That would be a good indication that it is time to walk away and keep moving forward. Don't let someone else keep you from having the love life you want.
"Holding on is believing that there's only a past; Letting go is knowing that there's a future" ~ Daphne Rose Kingma
We as human beings, with big hearts and open arms, tend to give people we love to many chances, because of our deep feelings for that person. We hang on to what could be instead of what is. If it doesn't make you happy, then it's time to walk away. Some times we fear being alone so much that we are willing to stat in a stagnant or unhealthy relationship. Let go of that fear and start living!
Steer clear from any avoidable drama and live in the flow of life. Listen to your inner voice; It will keep you heading in the right direction. All we have to do is listen and heed the guidance. If you are in an unhealthy relationship or marriage, and have been fo an extended period of time, it's your own fault. I know that is a hard pill to swallow, but onlywhen you relize that you have been holding on to a negative connection, that is going nowhere for both concerned parties, will you make a positive change and choose to move on and move forward.
We can also hold on to bad memories and that can be just as unhealthy. When we hold onto the pain and anger towards others who have wronged us, and hold grudges against them, we are the ones who suffer. We have to be able to look at all the bad things that have happened to us throughout our lives as lessons. They are what makes us stronger and wiser. But sometimes we let our bad memories rule us instead of learning and growing wiser because of them.